How To Seduce A Woman

Have you ever looked at men who can get any girl they want and wondered, "how do they do it?" Yes, females are attracted to power and status. Yes, they are attracted to symmetrical features, strength and confidence. The art of distracting a woman from all of your shortcomings and making her fall in love with you for who you are is called seduction. Read on to find out how to do it.


1.Manage your image. Before you can seduce a girl, you must have a good, positive image. Make friends and be charming with every one you come in contact with. Never hesitate to tell one person what you admire about another, as it will eventually reach that person and appear undoubtedly genuine. Never argue (arguing is anti-seduction). No girl can resist a guy whom everyone likes.

2.Manage your reputation. While people around you begin to like you, you may start to appear phony or plastic. You must also subtly reveal your human side with talk of taboo and sexuality. If you cannot insinuate, skip this step. Occasionally hint to people that you enjoy the company of young girls on a purely platonic level. When you talk about sex, say it in a way that Shakespeare would approve of. For example, "Sleep is my second favorite thing to do in bed" or "my neighbors are noisy during the day, but that's okay because they put up with me at night."

3.Do the opposite of what other guys do. If the girl is drop-dead gorgeous, ignore her. After hearing about your rakish reputation, she will wonder why you are not attracted to her. If other guys ignore her, shower her with the attention she has been craving. It will appear to her that you are smitten.

4.Hint that other girls like you.Women hold each other's opinions very highly and they get jealous easily.

5.Wait for the sign that she is interested.The gorgeous girl was ignoring you at first and now she flirts heavily. The not-so-attractive girl was shy and hesitant at first, but now she drops (very subtle) hints that she wants you to make a move.

6.Speak seductively. Never start a conversation focused on work, school, MySpace, family,TV shows, or other everyday things. Never talk about yourself. Talk about exotic vacation spots, mythology,sex (sometimes), history, astrology, dreams, fate, and anything else pleasurable and intangible. Don't express any opinions except for your preference for pleasurable things and for things that she likes. Keep a powerful gaze while talking about these things. The eyes are very important. Never apologize. Never worry when you are talking with a girl, because it will be written all over your face and interpreted as a sign of weakness.

7.Show strategic weakness (optional). This step is optional, but it will speed up the seduction. If you naturally come off as weak, skip this step. For more masculine guys, a flash of weakness and sensitivity will make you seem honest, romantic, harmless, and more akin to a girl's idea of "the one." All girls are frightened of guys on some level. The more feminine and skittish the girl is, the more necessary this step is. The key to performing this step correctly is to bend the truth. Don't talk about breakups or events that you really are sensitive about. As with dancing, it is your job to lead. Don't lead her into a depressing discussion topic. Add a masculine angle to feminine subjects. A good idea would be to say, "yeah, I watched The Notebook. I liked how he didn't give up hope after he saw her with the other guy."

8.Give her plenty of space. There are bound to be things about you that she doesn't like. Give her time to forget about those things and fantasize about the good things you have to offer.

9.Ask her out. You will eventually learn what the right time is--not too early and not too late. If you flirt with a girl over a long period of time, you will notice that the slow, steady increase in the attention that she gives you is followed by a sharp drop-off. This is a signal that she is sick of waiting and spites you for it. You have no chance after that. Girls are very picky about timing. Make sure it's an offer she can't refuse. It takes attention to detail, practice and luck to pick the perfect first date.

10.Turn on the charm. She already said "yes." As difficult as it is to blow it now, many guys do by being shy. If you don't show that you're attracted to her now, you will be seen as unappreciative or weak. Girls typically give about ten "nos" for every "yes," so show (don't tell) your appreciation for it. It's OK to bend the truth. If she's gorgeous, insinuate how clever and charming she is. If she's not, insinuate that she is. A great deal of the conversation will be non-verbal. Use ambiguous physical contact. Walk close enough to her that you brush against each other often, touch her lower back when you open the car door for her. If you are nervous when you touch a girl, it will make her very uncomfortable. Confidence is the difference between touching her and molesting her.

11.If she is shy, write well-crafted letters to her. There are some diamonds in the rough out there. When she is reading a letter, she can enjoy your words of love without worrying about whether you like the way she looks or acts. Each time she reads it (and she will read it over and over again so make it good) she will wish more and more that you are there with her. Make every word count and keep it brief. If she's outgoing and a good talker, she may find letters trivial, but always include a good one with gifts. Whether talking or writing, keep it brief. It is better to say nothing at all than to say something that is not seductive.

12.Obey the correct sequence of physical interactions. Don't move too fast. Wait for her to touch you flirtatiously. Hand-holding is next. Then comes close contact and embraces. Then comes kissing. Then comes the making out and heavy petting and all the rest. The process should be slow, poetic and musical like Pachelbel's Canon. There is no room for discomfort in seduction.

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• Seduction is an art. It takes as much practice as learning a musical instrument or painting.

• Empathy is essential to seduction. Every woman is different, so tailor your date, your words and your actions to that specific woman. You must know what she is thinking before you can offer her the pleasure she craves.

• Read poetry. Notice the imagery, the ambiguity and the sound. Notice how modern poetry uses colloquial language to achieve all that. Don't use big words or cliches. Your language should be "diabolic" (ethos and pathos) like that of a politician or a poet, not "symbolic" (logos) like that of scientists and philosophers.

• If she senses that you are seducing her, she will run away. The pace of your seduction should be slow and the volume should be quiet.

• All women like power in at least one of its many manifestations: money, status, intelligence, strength, etc. You need at least a little before you can seduce the most beautiful of women.

• Many girls will tell you that confidence is what they look for, but nothing will increase your confidence like a successful seduction.

• Insinuation is a must. Only a movie star or a professional athlete could expect success with a brash line like "let's go back to my place and...."

• Don't be a doormat or a people-pleaser. If you are perceived as weak, you will never get a girl.

• Always be honest, meaning don't tell a lie. A lie is something you can get caught in. Don't lie about your income, whether you have a girlfriend or not, whether you are good at sports, etc. Girls can see right through lies. However, bending the truth to achieve a more poetic effect is absolutely necessary. Also, most of the time, the correct answer is to say nothing at all.

• Seducing a woman is like dancing with a woman. Sometimes you hold her close and sometimes you let her shine on her own and watch. If you are too clingy, she will feel suffocated. If you let her go and never come back, she will be insulted.

• Reveal yourself slowly and only when directly asked. Don't show more of yourself than she asks for. When the mystery is gone, the seduction is over.

• Girls with boyfriends make excellent targets. If you can seduce a faithful girlfriend without showing up on the radar, you will have no problem with a single girl.

• Seduction does not always end in the bedroom. If you seduce a faithful girlfriend or wife, she may decide to cut off all contact with you when she realizes that she is in love with you. Mark it as a success and be thankful that you didn't have to break up with her. Do NOT however, go around ruining lives, there are people out there who are happy with each other, and who really don't need you to ruin that.

• Never take anything too seriously. You want to position yourself as a vacation from other guys--as the perfect summer fling. You are not possessive or controlling.

• Not every woman can be seduced. College-age girls are especially difficult because they are the most satisfied with themselves. Younger girls want to feel mature and older girls want to feel young.

• If the seduction fails for one reason or another, leave a good space of time before attempting to seduce her again. She must completely forget about the bad stuff before you can try to revive the old feelings.

• Women can sense fear and weakness very easily. If you have shown fear or weakness (we all have), it's time to start over.

• If you use this technique purely for the end result, you probably don't have the patience to perform a seduction correctly. Pleasure plays a major role throughout the process. You are not offering her a chance to sleep with you, but rather a chance to fall in love.

• Study the biographies, writings and speeches of the world's greatest seducers: Erroll Flynn, Casanova, Lord Byron, Charles De Gaulle, Gabriele D'Annunzio, etc.

• Physically attractive seducers will be able to seduce much faster than unattractive ones, because the attraction is already there. However, unattractive men will have an easier time getting close to girls and gaining access to their hopes and dreams.

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